miercuri, 8 aprilie 2015

Ce varsta trebuie sa aiba partenerul?

Vorbeam cu el des.
Avea o inteligenta iesita din comun.
Cred ca aveam asta in comun.
Conexiunea mentala deci exista si era puternica. As zice chiar ca era amenintatoare.
Atragea ca un magnet si ducea spre drumuri periculoase.

Exista insa o problema.
Eu eram o copila si el era opusul. El era un barbat in adevaratul sens al cuvantului.
Stiu sa ma analizez si stiu ceea ce-mi doresc. Si nici nu cedez usor.
Conexiunile mentale sunt da..puternice si da tot ele atrag.Mentin interesul.Pot fi fascinante.
Dar omul... omul este o fiinta complexa.

O femeie mereu isi va dori totul. Poate nu ti-o va zice in fata. Poate si-o va nega. Poate se va ascunde de tine dar tu tot vei trai in frica.

O femeie isi doreste tot de la un barbat si daca nu, macar viseaza la tot. Vrea un barbat frumos/puternic, hotarat , interesant ,realizat si atent si mai ales il vrea de o varsta apropiata de ea. Daca nu mai tanar chiar.

O sa-mi spuneti ca sunt cinica. Si da sunt si asta. Cum as putea eu sa afirm ca femeile de fapt cauta acelasi lucru ca barbatii? Tinerete,putere,energie,frumusete in partener? Pai..mie nu-mi place sa mint.

Eu stiu ca femeile sunt atrase de barbati interesanti dar ca..se uita dupa cei frumosi/impulsivi/in putere. Este un instinct uman. De multe ori incontrolabil. Nu tine mereu de logica si de sentimente.
Tine de sexualitate/chimie/atractie. Si poate vor fugi/vor nega/se vor abtine dar asta nu inseamna ca nu va exista ceva acolo. Si din acel ceva se pot naste multe.

Pot supravietui relatiile in care diferenta de varsta dintre ei este foarte mare?
Da si Nu.
Depinde de parteneri si de lucrurile pe care ei si le doresc/cauta in viata.

Dar tu ca barbat daca-ti doresti sa-ti faci cu adevarat
iubita fericita vei fi rational si logic si vei constientiza ca fiecare varsta are dorintele/fixatiile ei. Le vei intelege si-ti vei accepta limitarea si poate te vei redirectiona catre cineva mai apropiat de varsta ta.

Consider ca oamenii de varste apropiate reactioneaza/se inteleg cel mai bine.
Inteleg lumea similar. Impart pasiuni tipice. Isi accepta micile arogante si iarta usor/suporta altfel problemele. Iar apoi..ideea de a creste impreuna/de a simti lumea in acelasi ritm, acestea sunt lucruri ce merita experimentate in viata, alaturi de cineva ce intelege exact ce si cum.

O sa ma explic. Eu mereu am simtit ca am o inteligenta emotionala foarte dezvoltata.
Mi-a fost greu sa ma adaptez si sa interactionez cu persoanele de varsta mea.
Nu le intelegeam si sentimentul era reciproc.
M-am gasit de multe ori citind sau discutand cu persoane mult mai in varsta decat mine.
Era mai usor. Evident anumite tensiuni au aparut. Atractii. Fascinatii. Dar n-am simtit nevoia sa le urmez.

Mi-am inteles varsta si cine sunt. Stiam ca am o minte prea matura.
Stiam ca ma plictisesc usor si am nevoie de provocari mentale mai mereu. Ma cunosteam.
Dar mai stiam inca ceva. Ca-s o fata frumoasa si tanara si ca.. tot pe ei ma gaseam priviindu-i. Pe cei de varsta mea sau apropiata. Pe cei ca mine, frumosi,tineri,capabili de orice,pasionali, nebuni,imprevizibili. Problema era ca acea compatibilitate mentala si emotionala atat de necesara mie..se realiza greu.

Azi sunt fericita. Si da el este de o varsta apropiata mie.
Cand il privesc mi se pare enervant de atragator. Imi place sa-i simt puterea, imi place impulsivitatea lui tipica. Daca-mi vorbeste, ma inchide cu cateva cuvinte atent plasate. Si asta ma atrage si mai rau.
Este fascinant, tanar, realizat, complex si inteligent si mai ales puternic.
Este cel mai puternic barbat pe care l-am cunoscut vreodata. Si uneori asta ma sperie.
Ma sperie ca cineva poate fi asa..si sa le aiba pe toate..desi asta mi-am dorit mereu.
Si eu le am pe toate.. asa am tot fost acuzata.
Si acum...il am si pe el.

19 comentarii:


  1. Al Pacino, as lt.-col. Frank Slade in "Scent of a woman" (1992):

    "When in doubt, fuck!"

    "If you make a mistake and get all tangled up, you just tango on."

    "What life?!? I got no life! I'm in the dark here! You understand? I'm in the dark!"

    "Women! What could you say? Who made 'em? God must have been a fuckin' genius. The hair... they say the hair is everything, you know. Have you ever buried your nose in a mountain of curls... just wanted to go to sleep forever? Or lips... and when they touched, yours were like... that first swallow of wine... after you just crossed the desert. Tits. Hoo-ah! Big ones, little ones, nipples staring right out at ya, like secret searchlights. Mmm. Legs. I don't care if they're Greek columns... or secondhand Steinways. What's between 'em... passport to heaven. I need a drink. Yes, Mr Simms, there's only two syllables in this whole wide world worth hearing: pussy. Hah! Are you listenin' to me, son? I'm givin' ya pearls here."

    "The day we stop lookin', Charlie, is the day we die."

    "I'd show you, but I'm too old, I'm too tired and I'm too fuckin' blind. If I were the man I was five years ago, I'd take a FLAMETHROWER to this place! Out of order? Who the hell you think you're talking to?! I've been around, you know? There was a time I could see! And I have seen- boys like these, younger than these, their arms torn out, their legs ripped off! But there is nothin like the sight of an amputated spirit. There is... no prosthetic for that. You think you're merely sending this splendid foot-soldier back home to Oregon with his tail between his legs, but I say you are executing his soul! And why? Because he's not a "Baird man."

    "Well, then, take the fuckin' WAX outta your ears! GROW UP! It's fuck your buddy. Cheat on your wife. Call your mother on Mother's Day. Charlie, it's all shit."

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    1. Al Pacino in rolul asta a fost..atat de interesant.Foarte atragator. Mi-a placut insa de el foarte mult si in rolul Diavolului in The Devil's advocate si acolo are niste speech-uri ce-ti dau de gandit.

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    2. :)

      "You're in no position to disagree with me, boy. I got a loaded .45 here. You got pimples."

      Nu eşti în poziţia de a fi în dezacord cu mine, băiete. Am aici un [pistol de calibrul] .45 încărcat. Tu ai [doar] coşuri. - Charlie îl împiedică să se sinucidă.


      [Charlie comes back to the room to see Frank putting on his uniform]
      Lt. Col. Frank Slade: You're back too fast. You didn't get my cigars, did you? Get outta here, Charlie.
      [loads the .45]
      Charlie Simms: I thought we had a deal.
      Lt. Col. Frank Slade: I welched. I'm a welcher. Didn't I tell you?
      Charlie Simms: No, what you told me was, that you gave me all the bullets.
      Lt. Col. Frank Slade: I lied.
      Charlie Simms: Yeah, well you could've fooled me.
      Lt. Col. Frank Slade: And I did.
      [pause]
      Lt. Col. Frank Slade: Charlie, how you ever gonna survive in this world without me?
      Charlie Simms: Colonel, why don't you just give me the gun, all right?
      [Frank picks up the gun and points it at Charlie]
      Charlie Simms: What are you doing?
      Lt. Col. Frank Slade: I'm gonna shoot you, too. Your life's finished anyway. Your friend George is gonna sing like a canary. And so are you. And once you've sung, Charlie, my boy, you're gonna take your place on that long, grey line of American manhood. And then you will be through.
      Charlie Simms: I'd hate to disagree with you, Colonel.
      Lt. Col. Frank Slade: You're in no position to disagree with me, boy. I got a loaded .45 here. You got pimples. I'm gonna kill you, Charlie, cause I can't bear the thought of you SELLIN' OUT!
      Charlie Simms: [now firm] Put the gun down, all right, Colonel?
      Lt. Col. Frank Slade: What? You givin' me an ultimatum?
      Charlie Simms: No, I'm...
      Lt. Col. Frank Slade: I give the ultimatums!
      Charlie Simms: I'm sorry. All right I'm sorry.
      Lt. Col. Frank Slade: It's all right, Charlie. You break my heart, son. All my life I've stood up to everyone and everything, because it made me feel *important*. You do it... because you mean it. You've got integrity, Charlie. I don't know whether to shoot you or adopt ya.
      Charlie Simms: Not much of a choice, is it, sir?
      Lt. Col. Frank Slade: Oh, don't get cute now.

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    3. Lt. Col. Frank Slade: Get outta here!
      Charlie Simms: I'm staying right here
      Lt. Col. Frank Slade: I'll blow your fuckin' head off.
      Charlie Simms: Then do it. You wanna do it? Do it. Let's go
      Lt. Col. Frank Slade: [Frank pulls the hammer on the gun back] Fuck! Get outta here!
      Charlie Simms: So you fucked up all right? So what? So everybody does it. Get on with your life would ya?
      Lt. Col. Frank Slade: [screaming] What life? I got no life! I'm in the dark here. You understand? I'm in the dark!
      Charlie Simms: So give up. You wanna give up? Give up 'cause I'm giving giving up too. You said I'm through you're right I *am* through. It's all over. So let's get on with it. Let's fuckin' do it! Fuckin' pull the trigger you miserable blind motherfucker. Pull the trigger.
      Lt. Col. Frank Slade: Here we go Charlie.
      Charlie Simms: I'm ready.

      Lt. Col. Frank Slade: [Frank plans to kill himself and Charlie as well but hesitates] You don't wanna die.
      Charlie Simms: Neither do you.
      Lt. Col. Frank Slade: Give me one good reason not to.
      Charlie Simms: I'll give you two. You can dance the tango and drive a Ferrari better than anyone I've ever seen.
      Lt. Col. Frank Slade: You never seen anyone do either.

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  2. "Conscience, Charlie. When were you born, son? Around the time of the Round Table? Hah. Haven't you heard ?Conscience is dead."

    Lt. Col. Frank Slade:
    You know what's kept me goin' all these years? The thought that one day -- Never mind.
    Charlie Simms:
    The what?
    Lt. Col. Frank Slade:
    Silly. Just the thought that maybe one day, I'd -- I could have a woman's arms wrapped around me... and her legs wrapped around me.
    Charlie Simms:
    And what?
    Lt. Col. Frank Slade:
    That I could wake up in the morning and she'd still be there. Smell of her. All funky and warm. I finally gave up on it.

    Manny:
    It's Apartment 17 E, Colonel. She's expecting you. You don't have to worry about a thing. She's the creme de la creme. My buddy took the Vice Chancellor of Germany to her. Now he wants to immigrate to this country.

    http://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Scent_of_a_Woman

    http://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/1042193-scent_of_a_woman/quotes/

    http://www.quotes.net/movies/10011

    http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0105323/quotes

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    1. Oh vai! Stiu. Loved that movie!

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    2. Lieutenant-Colonel (retired) Frank Slade intenţiona ca, înainte de a se sinucide, să conducă un Ferrari şi să facă sex cu o femeie deosebită (classy). Şi parcă încă ceva, dar nu-mi mai amintesc.

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    1. "No mistakes in the tango, Dana. Not like life. Simple. That's what makes tango so great: you make a mistake, just tango on!"

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  4. Nu te iubesc, caci are cine sa o faca.Dar iti spun ca iti ador blogul si modul in care scrii e fascinant.

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    1. Nu vreau s-o sperii "pe-aia mică". Şi pe alţii/altele... :)))

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    2. O sa o sperii la un moment dat. Cand o sa afle cum esti de fapt :))

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    3. De parcă nu-şi dă ea seama. :) Însă în unele chestiuni trebuie să iau lecţii, sunt rămas în urmă".

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    4. Ha! Outdated and easily replaced!

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